Experiencing What We Don’t Want To Find What We Do Want

 A lot of this process has been figuring out what we actually want. And I can relate this to gaining traction in the career because a lot of what we experienced as we’re trying to gain traction in our career is just figuring out what we want. A lot of the time spent is spent just figuring out what we really want and once we know exactly what we want, then we are on a sure track to get there and we start to gain traction and the fact that we just know what we want, but we have to be willing to experience some, oh, I don’t want this in order to get to the place of, Oh, this is what I really want. And so when it comes to your career as they’re trying to navigate through what you really want to be doing in your career, you’re going to have some experiences that were.

You just need to explore some different options. Pick something that you think you want. Go after it, experience a bit of it, explore it, and then you’ll know whether you. Whether that’s a a, Oh, I don’t really want to be doing this. And then you the new course. Correct. And you try something else, don’t see it as a waste of time when you have to spend time experiencing what you don’t want because every time you experienced what you don’t want, it gets you that much closer to what you want. And so be okay with being in that process, be okay with exploring this job and this job and this career and then this career, um, and realizing what you don’t really want because I’ve experienced that, you know, I was pursuing a filmmaking career, a purely to just make movies in Hollywood. Basically. It was my goal and I realized as I was pursuing that, that that’s not what I really wanted.

Now an aspect of that goal is still getting carried over into my new career. And that is filmmaking. I will always be filmmaking as a, as a, as one form of how I want to teach, what I want to teach with my new business era light. Um, but I’m not going to be filmmaking in the way that I initially thought, you know, I’m still gonna be making a mix of, you know, my goal is to eventually still make fictional and nonfictional films and videos, but with this personal development mission, uh, in mind kind of overarching that, so I’ve as well experienced a lot of like, oh, I don’t want to be, you know, doing video editing forever ever for other people’s businesses, you know, but I had to pursue that. I had to build up a videography business. I had to experience that to realize what I really did not want to be doing the rest of my life.

And I didn’t see it as a waste. I don’t see it as a waste all the time I’ve spent pursuing one career was not a waste. It helped prepare me and led me to where I am now. Um, so that’s an important lesson that I’ve learned this last week. And kind of one more thing that I want to share is that I am recommitting myself to devote a full hour of personal development time each morning. I’ve always had it on my schedule that I’m spending 15 minutes on the spiritual 15 minutes with exercise and physical, 15 minutes with kind of mindset calibration and, and mental care, um, and 15 minutes for studying and we’re getting education, reading a book and when I’ve had mornings where I didn’t have enough time or I slept in, um, I ended up just crunching my personal development time so that it can still have more time for my new business era light and to kind of grow that.

But I’m realizing how important it is that I don’t compromise my personal development time. That if I have to take time out of Arrow light, uh, to have my full hour of personal development than I will do that because the mental clarity I have, the focus I have when I have that full hour of personal development in the morning is so much stronger. Which means I end up doing activities. And the way in which I do those activities are so much higher quality that it launches me forward in my career. Way more than if I compromise to that personal development. Time and time. In my brain ends up just being kind of cluttered and scattered throughout the day. Then I’m not really that productive at all, so it’s better that I spend one hour on Arrow light, but I do exactly the right activities that’s going to grow my business because I did that personal development time than for me to spend two hours on air light, haven’t compromised the personal development time and be kind of distracted and not really do the right things that’s going to grow my business and not really have the focus that I need.

So I encourage all of you to pick an amount of time that works for you for personal development and stick to that and don’t compromise on it because you will be so much more productive throughout the day. You will gain traction in your, in your career faster because of where your focus is in your control over that focus. If you have that time for yourself in the morning, so going to experiment with this where if I have a morning where I have less time, I’m going to still commit to that one hour of personal development and I’m going to let you know how that goes for me, even if it’s cutting out time for me working on my new business. I have two hours a day. I have two hours a day to to grow, to work on growing my new business, but I’m willing to compromise some of that.

For me, it’s me getting that full hour of personal development. I’m going to see how that pans out and I will let you know. So to close this up, my main focus right now that I am putting all my effort into to gain traction in my new career with growing my business is networking. I’ve done a lot of things to create content to do this, to figure out what my message really is and and and a lot of a lot of failed attempts at this thing and that thing, but I have a business structure in place now. I have things to sell, but I need to put all my focus into networking, all of it into creating mutually beneficial relationships so that other people can help my business grow and in return I help their business grow and we create those mutual mutually beneficial relationships.

And so a lot of my education right now with the books I’m reading is going to be focused on how to become a better at networking and creating those relationships. I mean, that is the whole. That’s the whole premise of Arrow light. That’s the whole premise of my new show connect up is how we connect our way to our goals. So right now my primary activity every day with growing my business is going to be reaching out and forming new relationships and I will let you know how that’s going along the way and how that is affecting my ability to gain traction in my career. So I’m signing off for today. I hope you have a great Monday.