In today’s conversation with Rachel Ritlop, you’ll learn why it’s a good thing to be a confused millennial.
Rachel is the founder of The Confused Millennial, a lifestyle blog and podcast sharing personal experience and advice to help other confused millennials embrace more of who they are while navigating this whole “#adulting” thing. The blog and podcast cover topics like careers, entrepreneurship, finance, the home, relationships, spirituality and more. She enjoys creating content to help millennials discover their life path. She also works one-on-one with clients to create their own blog or business that they can turn into a fulfilling and sustainable career. Her expertise has been seen on Forbes as a contributing writer, Fast Company, Brit + Co, Dailyworth, and more.
You’ll Also Learn:
How to separate from other people’s expectations of you and find your own voice.
How to know where to start with launching a blog.
Is it really necessary to niche down?
Tips for how to build a personal brand around your message.
How to leverage relationships to build your online business and blog.
Tips for working at home and figuring out work/life balance.
How to find your place in the world as a millennial.
Chad: Welcome back to connect up. I’m really excited about today’s conversation because I get to talk with Rachel Ritlop, who is the creator of the confused millennial blog and also the confused millennial podcast. In today’s conversation, you’re going to learn a lot about how to find your voice and whatever that means to you, finding your voice in your life, finding your voice in their career and how to release the expectations that others have put on you that are interfering with your ability to find your voice, to find your place in this world because a lot of times we do, we do get very confused by all of the expectations that get into our head from our parents, our grandparents or siblings or friends, the media, a movie, a culture society, all of it. It gets in our head and we have all these different voices telling us what we should and shouldn’t do, and when you’re able to clear out all of that, you can find out who you really are and where your voices and all of that, and we’re going to discuss a little bit about that today and also how Rachel story fits into that.
Chad: You’re also going to learn some really tangible tips for building a blog. If that’s something you want to do, whether it’s a video blog, a written blog, she is a successful blogger and she’s going to share some great tips with us today on how to start a blog, where to start, how to find our voice in it, and whether we need to niche down or not and we’re going to discuss some some key things related to creating content and building an audience around that and how to build and create a personal brand around who you really are so that your content and what you create can resonate with people. So if you’re a confused millennial right now, by the end of this conversation, you will be very happy that you’re confused because you’ll realize that being confused can actually be a good thing. That being confused doesn’t necessarily mean your last.
Chad: It can mean a very good thing and Rachel is a huge leader in redefining what it means to be confused and to be a confused millennial and how to embrace that and what to do with that so that you are on a path that you are sure about, that you can be confident with. In your life and career journey, Rachel is very authentic. You’ll see that in her blog. You’ll see that in our conversation today. She knows how to be real and how to be your real self and so take note of that as you watch this interview so that you can think about how can I step more into my power and just be real with people and just be authentic because that’s what it’s all about. Once you’re finally just being authentic and you’re not trying to be somebody else and you’re not trying to live somebody else’s expectations, it’s a really peaceful place to be.
Chad: So Rachel, she’s the founder of the confused millennial lifestyle, blog and podcast, sharing personal experiences and advice to help other confused millennials embrace more of who they are while navigating this whole adulting thing and the blog and podcast covers topics like careers, entreprenuership, finance, the home relationships, work life balance spirituality, and much, much more. After she earned her master’s degree in counseling and landed her dream job, she found herself feeling completely miserable with no work life balance. I can relate to that and I’m sure a lot of you can relate to that as well, and she’s gonna elaborate a little bit more on her story in today’s episode, but in the end, Rachel decided to get in touch with her passion and she moved forward by redefining what success meant for her and she started creating content to help millennials discover their career and life path. She also works one on one with clients to create their own blog or business that they can turn into a fulfilling and sustainable career. Her expertise has been seen on Forbes as a contributing writer, fast company Brit Plus Co, daily worth and much more. So. I’m excited to welcome Rachel to our show today.
Rachel: Thank you so much for having me.
Chad: Thanks for coming on. I’m really excited about today’s conversation because you have a successful blog and it’s called the confused millennial and I’ve been following that blog for awhile and there’s a lot of really great advice for us millennials on everything, on everything. It’s on everything from, from, from career fulfillment to, to professional development, personal development, uh, mindset, uh, to health and wellness and a really covers the gambit of how we can find our place in the world as millennials. And so we’re going to have a conversation today on how to, uh, just develop our career and life as a millennial and what that really means. And so I’m really excited to have this conversation with you today and I want it to start with, uh, just what, what, what got you into what you’re doing today and why, why are you doing it? What are some key elements that kind of led you to this whole blog that you’re doing and movement?
Rachel: Yeah. The super condensed version is that I got fired twice and under a month, um, right after my 25th birthday, the longer versions or blog posts on the blog, if you guys are interested in how all that played out, but really like two sentence snippet on the highlight reel of that. I thought I was in my dream job. I very quickly realized it was my worst nightmare. Started waking up every day like night sweats, anxiety, panic and crying every day at work. Like just, I and I ultimately got fired because I was so miserable to work with because my anxiety was so high through the roof. Um, I was actually fantastic and my job as working as a counselor on my way to licensure as a therapist after I got fired twice and under a month. And you know, right after my 25th birthday, like you could say the quarter life crisis was just real.
Rachel: I was like, I don’t know what to do. I got another job offer. I was like, oh, you can’t go back into this industry even though it’s something I thought I’d wanted since I was 10 years old. And so I took two months to live the south Florida, retired life. And I went to the beach every day I went for walks in the morning. I played Bingo and I just really reconnected with myself. It was the first time in my life or I didn’t have a boss and started working at 13. I wasn’t in school. I have a master’s degree and I just was like, you know, I have enough money in an emergency fund, I’m going to take it now like September, I’m going to take these few months and just see what it is I want to do and if I really end up needing money, my emergency fund goes below a certain amount, I’ll go back to waitressing for in season and I’ll figure this out.
Rachel: So about two months into doing all that, like my then boyfriend, now husband, he’s also an entrepreneur. He was like, you know, like, what are you going to do with your life? People wonder. Um, and so I kind of looked at what I saw, the issues that my clients were having, one with the low hanging fruit and realize like what the problem was that I could solve in that industry without having to be in it. So I launched my company October 2014, um, one around teaching life skills for about a year. I’d written a 200 page life skills curriculum, which you can kind of see the remnants of that in the blog. Um, so while the blogs only about two and a half years old, it was like two years in the making without even realizing that it was going to be in the making. Um, and so I went into tons of groups, one on ones with people and taught them things like financial literacy, taught them, you know, how to grocery shop effectively, talk to them about relationships.
Rachel: So a lot of the topics you see on the blog and after about a year of doing that, I realized it wasn’t really a scalable business model. I was like driving all over town by the time you would like average out what I was being paid hourly to how much time I spent traveling. I was like, I don’t know how much this is going to be really be worth it. And so it was a successful first year in business in the sense that I matched my salary from my nine to five and I quote unquote worked about a third of the amount of time than if I had been in the nine to five. So I decided at the end of that year, okay, I’m going to hire a business coach, I’m going to move things online, I’m going to figure out ways to scale all of this kind of information that I’ve been gathering.
Rachel: And that was a very interesting process and very quickly into that process I realized once again I was building somebody else’s dream and it all kind of came to a head, um, February, March 2016 and I was hysterically crying one morning and I just looked at my husband. I was like, I’m just another confused millennial that has no idea what they’re doing with their life. And it was like that. It wasn’t even a lightning bolt or it wasn’t a lightening bulb. It was like a thunderbolt went off in my system and I grabbed my laptop. All the domain was available two days later, had a logo working website for blog posts. And here we are, you know, two and a half years later kind of ended up taking over my life and transitioning my revenue streams and all that good stuff.
Chad: That’s, that’s pretty amazing. That’s A. I similarly had an experience where I was fired a couple months before my first son was born, while I only have one right now, um, but uh, and it, uh, and then I did freelance work for awhile as a videographer, but for hours I was doing that, I enjoyed it to an extent, but I realized that I as well was building other people’s visions which some people are meant to do that and be a part of that team and help somebody else’s vision come forth. But I had a grander vision as well that I wanted to build with the company that I have now. And uh, it, it’s confusing when you’re in that transitionary time where it’s a, I think I’m supposed to be doing something else and I have this own my own vision here. And that’s really interesting. How yours just a that the name of your blog came from that moment of I’m just to confuse a millennial. I don’t know what to do right now. And then you just ran with it.
Rachel: Yeah. And I mean there’s definitely that existential crisis happened to me of like I’m building somebody else’s dream, but for me, what I had really gone through with that I was building, I was doing what everyone else was telling me to do still. So like me and getting my master’s degree was very much because my parents said I had to do that. The direction that my online coaching was going was very much because somebody was telling me like these are all the things that it needs to have. So when I say I was building somebody else’s dream, I was building my own company still. It wasn’t like I was working for anybody but it was on somebody else’s terms and it wasn’t. I think a lot of digital entrepreneurs, your listeners and stuff can relate to this. When you’re first starting out, you don’t know what your voice is going to be yet. And I just knew when I say like I was building somebody else’s dream, I knew it was somebody else’s voice. I knew it wasn’t really authentic to me. Like I knew I was doing something to please others. Still
Chad: that’s. And that’s, I mean that’s it. We have a lot of should and should not get cast onto us from other people. Right. We have these, I’m supposed to be doing this, I’m supposed to be doing this and you’re, you’re totally right. I like how you reframed that within the element of finding your voice because that you find your voice once you can finally separate from all those expectations of everyone else, this is what you’re supposed to be doing and then just declare what it is you want and then build that. And so thanks for. Thanks for clarifying that. What were some key aspects that kind of a, because you started your blog and then here we are a few years later or two, two and a half years later. Right? Um, so how long did it take before you started to see some, some response that after you started posting content?
Rachel: Yeah, so I mean the response is an interesting. So I’ll define response in two different ways. So I kind of, because I was already in like the online coaching space, I knew how to get engagement. I already had a somewhat of a following, if you will, like on twitter. I was doing lots of twitter chats, like I was really branding myself as a career in business coach. So I had a really small audience. So when I launched it, as soon as it went live with the four posts, tweets and I got messages on instagram like, oh my God. Finally some real talk. Like the first couple of blog posts I, I published one of my favorites is half truths and passive aggressiveness, putting others down to lift yourself up. Very long title. I was not great at blogging back then, but that actually was a post that kind of gives you a behind the scenes of what happened with our coaching relationship I had hired.
Rachel: Um, and so it was just calling forth a lot of the bs that we had been seeing and really just shining a light on that. So people immediately kind of responded. And then I had a blog post. My second month I went live kind of go quote unquote, like mini viral, um, and it hit 20,000 page views a month that went up and I was like, Oh wow, I can get traffic to this. Like I don’t know how I did that. I don’t know how to replicate it, but I can get traffic to this. And then the, you know, the other response that people are usually interested in is monetizing obviously, how are you making a living? And so I had set the rule for myself because I had other revenue streams set up that for the first six months I was not going to monetize. I was gonna Focus solely on building my foundation, really getting into that voice, um, and just building an engaged community. And as soon as that six month mark hit though, I had already been getting kind of request. Things kind of took off more for the races. And um, you know, that you’re, I grew my income from the previous year and this year blogging took over as my primary revenue stream and it has doubled from what it was last year. So
Chad: that’s amazing. That’s amazing. That’s one thing that kind of reeled me into your blog is that authenticity, like you talked about your, your initial audience really respected that great, good. Some real talk here. And that’s it. It was your voice, you know, you were just being yourself, expressing yourself and in a real way and yet talking about universal themes that we all experience, you know, so it, it’s, it’s very relatable for somebody who have, of my audience who would want to start a blog. They all provide services typically to businesses or individuals, you know, as a freelancer being self employed. Um, but some of them that they want to create content and put that online either on a video blog or written blog, what do you suggest being a couple of first steps to help them know maybe how to find their message within that or what, what, what’s some advice you have for somebody? Just the beginning of that.
Rachel: Um, if you’re trying to find like what your message should be like, what you should talk about. Um, I mean there’s two different things. The, you know, there’s the one logical thing which is if you’re freelancing, I’m teaching people how to, if you’re freelancing as a videographer or starting a blog or a vlog about videography is obviously going to be a great way to drive new clients. Now if you’re starting a blog or a vlog because there’s something in you that’s not feeling fulfilled from you’re freelancing and you just want to put more of like your heart and soul into something and it’s different than like the services you offer. I would say go with the thing that really gets under your skin and like pisses you off and you could talk about for hours and hours venting because that’s where your passion is going to lie and you know, I always get asked the question like you cover so many different topics, like how have you been able to even scale?
Rachel: Like I’ve had coaches straight up say to me and like group coaching courses that are like, well, you really need to niche down. Otherwise you really are just a confused millennial. I’m like, well, and looking confused. Oh that’s fine. That’s the point. And so, but for me, I always write about what stage of life I’m in and so of course it’s going to cover a lot of topics are multidimensional. I’m not one person. If I had niched down for me personally, I would have been burnt out and not passionate and not able to keep creating content. So whether you choose to Nash or choose not to Niche, I’m just make it that thing that like really peeves you because that’s going to be the easiest place to get your authentic voice. You’re not going to censor yourself. You know? I think a lot of us ended up censoring because we do that thing where we’re like on pinterest or on twitter and we see an article and were like, Oh, I could have written this better, and then we go ahead and write it, but it ends up just being a watered down version of somebody else’s content.
Rachel: That’s not finding your voice, finding your voices. You know, when you stub your toe and curse at your spouse and then you have to work through that. It’s those authentic moments that we’re having.
Chad: That’s a really great evaluator to find out. I’ve never heard it framed in that way before. Just find out what really pisses you off and uh, because, but that, that, to me, I’m like, that really resonates of, that’s a lot of where I found my voice. I just didn’t realize that that was the avenue I was taking. Um, and uh, but that really helps us because you hear it all the time in business, does niche down, niche down, and it’s the only way you can start making money. And I love that you gave everyone listening permission to not have to niche down into something so specific and that’s the only way to grow a following because you have found plenty of success, not niching down, but in, in, in a strange kind of way. You still, to me, you have a very specific voice and uh, and blog, even though you cover a lot of topics, I think that your followers still resonate with you as a very unique person. Even the. So that in itself almost acts as a niche. Even if your topics cover a broad range. Is that something that. Is that.
Rachel: Yeah, Cross your mind, but that’s what people typically Tommy, they’re like, I read your book because I just like to hear your voice and your thoughts and stuff. I’m like, there will be topics that people aren’t interested in and they’re like, but because you write about them, I’m interested in them, which is always super flattering. Would that side like not being nice is like you can totally be successful. Um, you know, you can make six figures and all of that good stuff. With that said though, it will lead to many, many, many more. I think existential crisis as along the way for warning, warning label, be prepared to constantly like once a month or once every few months be like, am I really giving my audience what they want? I don’t really know what they want when I pull them and ask them what they want. They don’t know what they want. But then again, I’m attracting confused millennials. So of course they don’t. So just like be. That’s like my one warning label. Like you can totally do it, but it’s not like all those and butterflies.
Chad: Yeah, definitely. Well thanks. Thanks for that warning. That really helps with along with, along with that, uh, what kind of a kind of effort do you put into and what tips do you have regarding building your personal brand around something like that because even though you cover a broad range of topics, I’m sure you still put some, some effort and work into building a personal brand around that. What tips do you have for that? Because, uh, I still like, even though you’ve covered a lot of topics, you still have a very specific brand that is you. What are some tips you have revolving how to do that?
Rachel: So there’s a couple of different things going through my mind. So number one is having a really clear through line, um, so like that umbrella that everything sits underneath. So for tcm it’s all about embracing more of who you are while navigating this whole adulting thing. Um, and so that’s where I get kind of like free, you know, um, I launched a podcast earlier this year under the same name. That’s where I kind of get the free license to do a career in entrepreneurship episodes, but then also have like shamans and astrologers on because all of that has to do with embracing who you are. Well, navigating this adulting thing. So as long as things fell under that umbrella, um, that really works. I found my writing style, which also added to that. With that kind of sad though, when I first launched, I had a very strict editorial schedule that I hit ’em to make sure that there was always a piece of contact for the people coming to my site.
Rachel: So like Mondays and Tuesdays or Mondays was all about career or business. Wednesdays was all about, I’m more like lifestyle. He content. So with our, that was travel, relationships, things like that. And then Fridays we’re like finance Fridays, so that way those were kind of like the three, our overarching themes, if you will. And I made sure I had content in each of those areas every single week. So if you were starting to view me as your go to career person, you would always have something there. If you were starting to view me as your goto finance person, you had content there, if you just wanted to like be lighthearted and breed some posts about like traveling and movies and tv, you always have stuff on Wednesday, so I made sure to figure out like what are the different parts of me that I typically spend most of my time thinking about, um, in produce content for that every single week consistently.
Chad: That’s really helpful. Thanks for sharing that. That really helps that, that, that, that clears it up with just how to, how to develop that for personal brand and some initial tips and doing that. Thanks for that. Um, along the way, as you started to scale up, how did you really leverage relationships in order to build your brand and company? Because we do talk a lot of on the show about the importance of connection and connecting your way to the goals that you have. So how, how have you leveraged relationships along the way?
Rachel: Yeah, so it was a couple of few different things. Um, I had, when I launched the blog, I launched it also very early on with a youtube channel, so like, podcasts weren’t really that big two years ago. Um, so I started the inspiring millennials series and I honestly started it selfishly as a way to force me to network each week. So I did an interview with somebody every week, much like we’re doing right now. Um, and that way just like forced me out of my introverted comfort zone. Whereas like, okay, I’m going to talk to a new person every single week. I’m going to build a new relationship and see how this goes. So I did that for a while and then I kind of just like, I think I ended up moving and life happened and I kinda got over it, but that was a big reason why I launched the podcast this year was again, to get back into that habit of just like networking.
Rachel: Um, the other thing that I really did too was I set up a few different syndicating relationships. So originally when I launched tcm, I wasn’t like if I wanted to be more of a media site or if I wanted to be the face of it and more of like a blogger and so every month I had at least once a week, one post a week was actually a syndicated post and I had a few different relationships where they would take one or two of my post and publish on their site and I would take one or two of their posts and publish it on my site. So I’m still keeping a really good average of fresh content to please google. But I also was taking out some of the pressure of having to create content and I was also leveraging other people’s audiences.
Chad: That’s great. Thank you for that. Yeah, that really helps with because there’s a. relationships are so key to building anything and uh, there was just some really useful ways that we can do that, especially when it comes to creating a blog and creating content. And so that’s, that’s, that’s definitely helpful. I wanna I wanna I wanna make a bit of a shift here and talk about. I’m working at home, uh, I work at home. You work at home, a lot of my audience works at home. I, I’ve had, I’ve had a roller coaster of, uh, my, my journey working home has been kind of a rollercoaster with trying to manage, um, my work and home life and how to separate that, how to create boundaries, had to create schedules for myself. How have you been able to master the art of working at home so that a work in so that you have that work life balance because that might look different than somebody who has a nine to five job work life balance. Um, so how have you obtained that work life balance? How do you separate the two lives or are they so integrated, like get, talk to us a little bit about that.
Rachel: So I’m a lot of answers and a lot of thoughts on that. So I’ve been doing it for October was officially four years that I went into business for myself. So for years I’ve been working from home. Um, I feel like I have a pretty good handle on it now. I’m with as a, like I said, when I first launched my company, my husband was also working from home. I on his startup, um, and he is now on his second startup. He like, he sold that, he went and got a 95 for like a year and now he’s doing his second startup so he’s back home with me all day. Um, and so definitely the lines get a little bit blurred because when you have two people while I’m pregnant now, but we have. But how many kids up till this point when you were two people both working from home and no kids establishing ours is always interesting because it’s like, oh, you’re working.
Rachel: I guess I’ll work now too. So there’s that side of things. I was like really strict in the early days where I was like, no phone during dinner, no work during dinner I’m like, we’re going to have the set mealtimes. But like since we’ve moved, we don’t have a dining room table still, so we go for evening walks and that’s like our dedicated time and we just eat dinner on the couch while watching TV. So that’s not tangent, um, as far as just like personal relationships got. Um, the other kind of tangent is, you know, one thing that helped me a lot actually this year shift things, so I had learned about human. I had the human design expert on my podcast, episode 12, agenda Zoe, phenomenal information. So if you’re not familiar with human design, essentially all of us, much like an astrology, like you would have a different, you would type in your birthday, your specific exact birth time and just like an astrology, how you get a birth chart, you would get a human design chart and that tells you a bunch of information.
Rachel: But one of the key points of information is your Nrg type. And so there’s a few different energy types out there. I’m what’s called a manifesting generator who has the largest energy source of all of the energy types, meaning like I can be the energizer bunny of the world. Um, but it’s when I’m lit up with stuff, if I’m not feeling it, it’s actually going to push me further and further into a funk. It’s gonna make it harder and harder for me to accomplish a task, so I had been working for four years from home and like really gritting my teeth and forcing myself to quote unquote work certain hours to do certain things. I would feel guilty if I went to beach at 10:00 AM on a Tuesday because I thought I was supposed to be working and then like what humans design gave me the permission to do is like, no, you’re not supposed to have guilt over that because when you’re going to the beach and you’re doing these different things, it’s filling up your tank so that way when you do show up to be an online person and like a content creator, you’re showing up with that juicy, glittery, glowy energy and you can really like be on and like give people that thing that they’re coming to you for.
Rachel: So like understanding my energy type and understanding like how that worked with my workflow I think really shifted things for me. Because like yesterday I was just not having a great day. I don’t want. I was like crying in the middle of the day. I was, I got a few emails like my inbox lately has been like, this is Thanksgiving week that we’re recording this, but I’m like, why is it, why am I getting so many emails this week? Like I thought I was going to have an off week and like just crazy request tons. It just very annoying week in my inbox and like I ended up just going at like 2:30 in the afternoon to the beach and like read a book and like I woke up today and I felt like a new person. I was like, okay, I need to do that and today I’ve been unbelievably productive. So just learning how to have listened to the rhythm of flow rather than saying like, this is what I’m supposed to do every single day. I can’t do that. That’s going to. That’s why I can’t work a nine to five. That’s why I was so miserable. I killed my flexibility and my freedom. So self awareness is the short answer of that long winded ramble.
Chad: Thank you. Thank you. That gives us a. That gives us really, really good insight on the fact that working at home is going to look different for everyone and I think that’ll be very interesting for people to go and check out your episode where you interviewed, talked about human design, what was the guest name?
Rachel: China is our episode 12, episode 12 different energy types and we, I’ll walk you through how to look yours up. But yeah, it’s really wild information.
Chad: That’s really great. It’s very validating to because sometimes we, uh, we criticize ourselves for not being able to fit into maybe somebody else’s profile of what it looks like to manage working at home. But when you understand yourself better like you did a, you were able to give yourself permission to fulfill your needs and do what you need to do and set up a schedule that worked for you. And uh, and that’s really important to know that it also doesn’t have to be the exact same schedule every day, every week. You can continue to have that fluidity and being able to just the fact that you understand yourself so well, you can follow those, those, uh, your own inner voice of, okay, I need this right now. Okay, this day is going to be this kind of day. I’m just going to go to the beach for a couple of hours and read a book. I mean, that’s, that’s empowering to be able to step into your own voice in that way and know what you need on a daily basis so that you can master the art of working at home and, and that it is, there’s no union, there’s no, this is what you’re supposed to do. You’re supposed to have this kind of schedule, this, these are all the rules. You just got to know yourself better. And, and, and Elisa,
Rachel: you’re one of those people that like reads those 10 tips for successful morning or like what successful people do before 9:00 AM and like it makes your skin crawl. That was me and like just let that go. And the more you can let that go and like, do you condition yourself to that? Like I’m able to accomplish what takes some people four days to do in one day now because I understand how to work with my energy.
Chad: That’s powerful. Yeah, that’s it. It does come around full circle with your productivity because you can remain focused because you’re in your, you’re in your own energy, not trying to be somebody else, not trying to be what somebody else is expecting you to be. And that’s, that’s, that’s really cool. Uh, what’s, let’s just kind of finish up by just talking a little bit about just career building for a second. What’s one thing that you think is helpful for millennials when it comes to building their career and finding success in it? Uh, whether it has to do with having the right mindset towards it and however you want to take that. How, how can millennials, uh, basically just find their place in their career and find success there? And how do you define that?
Rachel: Oh Gosh. It’s called millennials. This is the key to living your best advice, which actually is very similar to what you were talking about at the start of this episode, which is all about unlearning everything you’ve been taught and conditioned to believe up until this point. Like I think one of the beautiful things, you know, I think we highlight it more in our twenties. Um, it goes for any age obviously that. But like I think we see it a lot more play out on TV. The media shows all that good stuff is you get to this place of like finding yourself and you get to this place of exploring that. And like I always kind of really focus in on something that want to Preston smiles. I don’t know if anyone smile or with him, but he had said to me, you know, all of your questions need to be answered, but all of your answers need to be questioned.
Rachel: And I think that same approach comes with your career, with how you’re living your life in your twenties, out of your twenties. It’s how we’re going to unlearn what is somebody else’s message that we’ve just internalized. Because we thought it was meant for us versus what we actually feel unbelieved, like all events in life are neutral until we assign a value to them. Um, and so when it comes to our careers, like I’ve talked a lot about this on the blog, like how are you defining success? For me that meant having the flexibility and freedom to go to the beach every day. It wasn’t necessarily a dollar amount in my bank account. Attracting money becomes a lot easier when we know that lie that we’re doing what we’re supposed to do money and we’ll end up flowing and following with that we’ll end up putting a block and putting a cap on how much we can earn if we are trying to build somebody else’s dream if we’re trying to force ourselves into a box.
Rachel: So we aren’t meant to fit in because somebody told us to do that. And so I would kind of go back and like question if you’re like constantly, like I was in this rock crying all the time, feeling anxious, not feeling fulfilled. You know, you have to go back in and like look at like why are you doing the things that you’re doing? And so much of me was taught that academia, academia, academia, nobody can take away your degree, is in your knowledge and while that’s totally true, nobody can take those things away. Knowledge doesn’t have to be in the form of a classroom anymore. Um, and I think just starting to learn that and understand that and actually becoming like an eternal student of life and of my experiences and my perceptions, that’s where career success or whatever type of success you’re looking for is really gonna lie. Like I could sit here until you get a mentor network, all that kind of crap. What you’re doing, like it’s only going to take you so far.
Chad: Well that’s a, that’s a great place to end this conversation. Taking it full circle to where we started that. It sounds like just the key thing that we need to do is strip away all the expectations that other people have put on us. Takes. Take some time that you like you did for yourself where you. Yeah. Does your story basically teaches us exactly what we need to do to be able to find a fulfilling career and find success, which is essentially just take some time to organize in your head and Indian if you have to journal about it, whatever you have to do to help to separate all these different expectations, all these shoulds and should nots from everyone else. And what’s that? Once that’s out and you can kind of organize all of that, then you can find your voice in it and then ask yourself the question of what do I want, you know, what, what I want to try. Um, and that at that point, now that all that clutters out, the inspiration can come in and there’s room for it. And do you have anything else that you want to, I want to mention about that.
Rachel: I will. Thank you. Were saying like to use as a blueprint. Like please don’t pick this way messier, but knowing I was going to say is, you know, with that kind of said like, you know that that was two months when I was 25. I’m now 29. Were like, those were pivotal and pushing me onto this particular path, but like the behind the scenes pulling back the curtain. Not at all. I still sit here and question as much as I love what I’m doing. Like I still know inside that like that next part of my career hasn’t quite clicked yet and you know, your career isn’t like a final destination. Your, it’s like your life, your, it’s a journey that’s ever evolving, ever changing. And so just because you ended up one step on that path, it doesn’t mean that you’re aware you quote unquote want to be.
Rachel: And so like I have this weird feeling come up a lot because I’m like, I don’t know where this is going to go. I know this is really working for me right now. But like I’ve been getting that Antsi field last few months where I’m like, I know the next layer of this that I don’t even know what it’s going to be. Much like when I launched the blog in two days, I didn’t know it was going to turn into what it was going to turn into. I know I’m getting ready for another one of those moments, so it’s not just like about unplugging and like sitting with yourself. It’s also kind of just like realizing that like even when you’re on it and you think you have this next dream, it’s going to be ever evolving. It’s going to keep changing, like you’re going to feel messy about it. It’s not like this, like happy little like one and done situation. Um, self awareness is gonna. Keep changing and keep shifting and throwing curve balls at you. The difference being though, because that you will know you’re on the right path, he has the differences is you’re actually like, okay, it’s not great to go through those feelings but you’re okay with it happening. Whereas like when I was in my nine to five, I was not okay with that happening. I was miserable.
Chad: That’s important. Thanks for being real with us on that. That there’s, that. There’s that difference when you’re facing those confusing or challenging moments, but you know you’re on the right path versus not A. I’ve definitely experienced that. Thank you for, for leaving us with those words of just, with the fact that it’s, we’re always on the path that we always think about, oh, where do I want to be? And the ones in there. Okay, good. Well, I guess I’m here. Uh, you know, now what we’re, we’re always going towards something else, but as long as we are enjoying the whole journey and realizing that it is a journey that’s ongoing, then, uh, we, we enjoy the whole process, the ups and downs and like you said, career is never a destination and I think that’s such a great way to kind of put a cap on everything we’ve talked about today that you’re, if you’re just constantly self aware and asking yourself those questions that you can get to that next place that you’re starting to feel out in your own career that is coming and you’re open to the fact that things continue to evolve and it’s just this beautiful journey.
Chad: So thanks for that. Where can, where can our audience connect with you, learn from you
Rachel: confusedmillennial.com is probably the easiest place it has directions to get to the podcast links for all my social media channels. I’m the confused millennial and on millennial on Instagram, um, in case you don’t know how to spell millennial because that happens a lot. There’s two L’s together. There’s obviously the third one, not the end of it. And then there’s two ends. The two ends is usually the thing that most people mess up. They usually put one end to the other. That’s kind of like it in a nutshell at the confused or anything.
Chad: Perfect. Well thanks so much. I encourage all of you to go to her blog and to follow it because there’s so much great advice. It’s the confused millennial.com, but the advice is not confusing. It’s very, it’s very clear, but it’s for all of us who are so confused and, and I think, I think just to kind of wrap it up, we talked today how confusion can be a really good thing and a and confused doesn’t always means that we’re lost necessarily. It just means like right now you’re kind of confused as far as what’s coming next. But you’re in the, you’re on the right path, you’re on a good place and uh, and I think we can, we can, yeah, we can be in confused, can be a very good thing and so let’s, let’s join a Rachel’s community and I’ll be confused together and learn from each other.
Rachel: Well, when I first launched this, I have a lot of like older people on twitter and dm me and be like, what are you confused about? You’re too young to be confused. And so I love that you just pointed that out so much because like confused has gotten a really bad negative connotation as like this thing. And so I’m all about reclaiming the world because to be confused means that we’re asking questions and that’s how we’re going to get to that self awareness to do everything that you help your listeners with through this podcast. So I love that.
Chad: That’s totally true. Thanks so much. Well, thank you Rachel, and I hope you have a really great day. Thanks for coming on.